Valentine’s Day: Crass commercialism or special day?

My family has waffled back and forth for years regarding the importance of Valentine’s Day. My husband actually forgot our first Valentine’s together and we ended up going to McDonald’s for dinner that night. He called it ‘Chez Ron’ but I wasn’t fooled. I still married him, but to this day I’ve never let him live it down. 😉

When our daughters were young, Valentine’s became a big deal, with pink and red hearts decorating windows and walls, and hours spent punching out little cardboard declarations of love and friendship. Their enthusiasm took a severe nosedive when they hit their teens, however, and had no special ‘someone’ in their lives. At that point they declared the day ‘stupid’ and ‘commercial’ and refused to acknowledge it. The day then became an on-again-off-again proposition as relationships came and went. Two of three girls are in stable relationships now, but I’ve no idea where they or their boyfriends stand on the issue. After years of meltdowns over the topic, I’m wary of asking. 😀

I’ve never let their opinions deter me from at least acknowledging the day, however. I’ve always given them a little something for the day — a card and some chocolate, a pair of earrings, a small bouquet. Is giving them a gift necessary? No, but it’s nice — for them and for me, because it never hurts to be reminded that we love and are loved.

So Happy Valentine’s Day to everyone!



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6 responses to “Valentine’s Day: Crass commercialism or special day?”

  1. miki Avatar

    i also prepared something for my brother and my mother i don’t wait St Valentien to show them i love them but still i l prefer to add this day to the list because it’s a day like any other and we should show our love everyday

    1. lindapoitevin Avatar

      I absolutely agree, Miki — and a very Happy Valentine’s to you! 🙂

  2. D. D. Syrdal Avatar

    That’s so sweet that you do that. It never hurts to show the ones we love how we feel about them.

    1. lindapoitevin Avatar

      Nope, never does. 🙂 Happy Valentine’s D.D.!

  3. Carol Avatar

    I also made sure that my daughter had something special from me. That and spending time with her. Love is not defined by one type of relationship and I want her to know that AND how important she to me. Good article! Carol

    1. lindapoitevin Avatar

      And an excellent point, Carol: “love is not defined by one type of relationship”…exactly! 🙂

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