The Fallacy of Being in Control (and bonus road trips!)

Every once in a while, I like to think I’m in control of my life. And every once in a while, life finds it necessary to put me firmly back in my place. The last couple of weeks have been such a while. 😛

I tend not to talk much about my personal life online…well, apart from Giant Dog and Itty Bitty Pretty Kitty, I mean, lol…so few people here know that my youngest daughter has ASD (autism spectrum disorder). She’s 21 now and, for the most part, is coping pretty well. Anxiety is a huge problem for most people on the spectrum, however, and she’s no exception…particularly when faced with a new situation. When that happens, she needs some extra support–and all my very best-laid plans go flying out the window.

In this instance, the new situation was a visit from an online gaming friend who hails from Scotland. He’s a sweet, soft-spoken young man who’s quite happy to follow along and see what he can of Canada, but daughter has never had to play host to anyone for more than a day or two, and he’s here for two weeks. Cue extreme anxiety for her over not meeting her hostessing duties–and for me over watching my deadlines slide further and further out of my grasp. (That laughter you hear? That’s life’s response to that whole thinking I was in control thing. 😛 )

Long story short, I’ve shelved writing for the moment–both for daughter’s sake and my own sanity–and hubby and I have stepped into tour-guide mode. Daughter’s anxiety is easing now that she knows she has back-up entertainment for her guest, guest is seeing many sights and gaining a wonderful impression of Canada, my stress levels have returned to (near) normal, and we’re all enjoying the bonus road trips we’re making. Because if you’re going to lose control realign your priorities, you might as well have fun doing it, right? Right. 😉

So, in the spirit of letting go and showing our guest a good time, on Tuesday we headed up to Parc Omega, a wildlife park near Montebello, Quebec, about an hour’s drive from us. We haven’t been there since our kids were still little, and it was fun showing our Scottish guest some North American critters he wouldn’t otherwise see. And because I took pictures (many, many pictures!), I thought you might like to see some of them, too. 🙂

Entrance to the gift shop, decorated with dropped antlers from the many, many elk roaming the park.
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A gorgeous elk (wapiti) buck taking advantage of some shade.
An arctic wolf – you can see a den in the rocks behind it.
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An alpine ibex – which is actually native to the European Alps rather than North America, but it’s still cute. 🙂
A baby ibex – for some reason, he looked better in the sepia print than in full colour. A photographer, I am not. 😉
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Part of the herd of bison – the little one is enjoying lunch!
The North American black bear – this one’s a mama watching her twin cubs at play in a stream below her.

Check back tomorrow for some pics from our next road trip – a day at the Upper Canada Village heritage park!




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6 responses to “The Fallacy of Being in Control (and bonus road trips!)”

  1. Debbie Suber Avatar
    Debbie Suber

    For the love our children, we will sacrifice anything. Who cares about deadlines, when we can make them feel secure and happy. Kudos to you and hubby! Enjoy your road trips and guess what? When you return to writing mode, your thoughts will come pouring down like raindrops.

    1. Linda Avatar

      The thoughts had better come like raindrops, Debbie…a monsoon will be about the only thing that can help me make those deadlines, lol. Thank you for the kind words! 🙂

  2. Sarah Bartholomew Avatar

    I think that sometimes just admitting you’re not in control means you’re getting some of that control back! 🙂 Sounds like your daughter is doing fine and I love the pictures from the road trip. Can’t wait to see more!

    1. Linda Avatar

      It certainly means less stress and better sleep, Sarah! Glad you enjoyed the pics…more coming tomorrow! 🙂

  3. Debbie Avatar

    I can’t really comment on your daughter since my own “children” are the furry variety, but you sound like you are handling it well and in exchange having an amazing time. I hope you all have a fantastic vacation!

    Also, we have a wildlife park in Montebello?! I’ve only been there to hike and had no idea! I absolutely need to go there – keep us updated on your tour!

    1. Linda Avatar

      Thank you so much, Debbie — and yes, you should definitely check it out. I’d forgotten how beautiful it is, and so very well managed and maintained. And now I need to check out those hiking trails! Where do I find those? 🙂

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