New Year’s Resolutions

Happy New Year, everyone!

There was a time when I made the standard resolution on the first of every January. I was younger then, and while I wouldn’t necessarily describe myself as more foolish, I was certainly less wise than I am now. Resolutions (other than being something that everyone made) seemed so easy to make. Lose 10 pounds? Run 5 km a day? Write 1000 words a day? How hard could it be?

Well, it took me a while to figure it out, but sticking to a concrete resolution can be very hard, actually. Because the truth is, life doesn’t really care what you’ve resolved to do/not do. Life is arbitrary, contrary, and sometimes just plain scary in how it unfolds; and a lot — okay, most — of what happens isn’t within our control. Illness, job issues, family crises…all those and so much more can interfere with our best intentions and throw our resolutions completely off track.

What is in our control, however, is how we respond to life’s unfoldings. After repeatedly failing to live up to my own expectations, I’ve learned to respond by allowing myself flexibility, which means that I no longer resolve to stick to any particular agenda — especially not one that contains a number! 😉

Instead, I resolve (and not just on January 1st, but repeatedly throughout the year):

To live mindfully.

To plan for the future but live in the moment I have now.

To strive to be a good person, to lead by example, and to be as kind to myself as I am to others.

To make the time to be grateful for all that I have.

To dream and to follow through on those dreams.

To do what I can with what I have for as long as I have it.

To simply live well.

What about you? Have you made a resolution this year?




11 responses to “New Year’s Resolutions”

  1. Savannah Chase Avatar

    Wishing you and your loved ones a very Happy New Year…

    As for resolutions I have not made any except try to have less stress and get back into the writing game…

    1. lindapoitevin Avatar

      Both admirable resolutions, Savannah — best of luck with them! 🙂

  2. D. D. Syrdal Avatar

    I made some ‘goals’ rather than resolutions. But I like what you have here, I think we could all benefit from more mindfulness (if that’s a word?) 😉

    Very Happy New Year to you!

    1. lindapoitevin Avatar

      I think that mine are more goals, too, now that you mention it. And thank you. 🙂

  3. Sandy Williams Avatar

    This is actually the first year I’ve ever made resolutions. I never understood why I needed to wait until January 1st to make a change, and since that’s the date that everybody else is doing it, I always rebelled against following the crowd.

    This time, though, January 1st is coming at the right time. My twins are finally eating and napping on something that resembles a schedule, the crazy holiday season is over, and I have a book due in a month and a half. I need to get into a pattern of behavior, and today’s the day.

    P.S. I did try to start the whole weight loss thing BEFORE today, but I got sick, of course, so I postponed the exercise/healthy eating thing until today. 🙂

    1. lindapoitevin Avatar

      Congratulations on the schedule, Sandy! It makes a world of difference, doesn’t it? I don’t know how you do the writing with infant twins, though…you’re a far better woman than I ever was at that stage! Glad you’re getting your year off to a good start…good luck with the new book and all the very, very best in 2012! 🙂

  4. Qwill Avatar

    I made a resolution many years ago that I have never broken – to never, ever make another New Year’s resolution. 🙂 I think that behaviors or changes in them should not be conditioned on a promise you make to yourself on the 1st of each year… just like you shouldn’t show the people you love that you love them only on February 14th.

    Happy New Year to you and yours. I hope 2012 brings you much joy and success!

    1. lindapoitevin Avatar

      Excellent resolution, Sally, and very well said. I hope you have a wonderful 2012!

  5. Sandy Westendorf Coelho Avatar

    Excellent life goals Linda! I admire your choices. All the best in 2012. Can’t wait for Sins of the Son.

    1. lindapoitevin Avatar

      Thanks, Sandy…hope you have a wonderful year! 🙂

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